Message from the Board 10/2019
The year has flown by and we can look back on events and club improvements with a great deal of satisfaction. So as we approach year’s end, the Board of Directors is hard at work planning for the last quarter of 2019. A Halloween Dance with a costume contest is in the works for Saturday, October 26th at 8 o’clock and we have already begun planning for our annual Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday, November 28th. Once again the club will host a Christmas Alcathon this year. Hope you’ll join us.
In January, 2020, each members the Fellowship will receive a packet of materials with information regarding the Annual Meeting, the Member Appreciation Dinner, and the Annual Election of the Board of Directors, which are all held at the end of February each year. If you would like to serve on the board or know someone who would like to serve on the board please contact one of the present board members.
Once again, the club will be hosting a “feast” on Thanksgiving day…Turkey with all the trimmings. We need volunteers to roast the birds and bring them back cooked to serve. We also we would love for you to share your favorite side dish or dessert for the dinner. There is a sign up sheet on the office door to list the dish or dessert you’ll bring, as well as signing up if you can roast a turkey.
The new AA meeting, Wellness Recovery Group, held on Thursday each week at 8:15 pm is off to a good start, but is looking for new members who are interested in studying the Big Book and the 12and 12. They also have a speaker the last Thursday of each month…this month’s speaker is Kit G. who will be telling her story on October 31st!! Hope you’ll come check it out!
The club has another new meeting that started in September, meeting every Tuesday at 5:30 pm in the Library. The Bridge to Life meeting is for beginners and has a different format designed for the newcomer. Old timers are encouraged to come to share their experience, strength and hope.
Don’t know where this year has gone, but the club will continue to move forward with new ideas, meetings and events as it upholds and provides a safe welcoming atmosphere for recovery.
Kit Gross, Vice-President
Did you know…
Meeting etiquette consists of customs, manners, and propriety; it is the way to conduct oneself while in a recovery meeting. Meeting etiquette has traditionally been a concept passed down from one recovering person to another, e.g., from sponsor to sponsee or a more experienced member to the newer member. There is no standard or accepted model beyond what is written in the Twelve Traditions; however, it is common for each member to take personal responsibility for his or her own fellowship and to make certain that there is an atmosphere of recovery found in the meetings. Most “violations” of meeting etiquette are usually addressed by more long-standing members of a group, usually in a kind and tolerant way.
For the Newcomer
If you’re a newcomer to the AA program you may feel like you are in outer space. You’re probably scared, maybe nervous and don’t know what to expect. Like any social situation, there are rules and traditions which people practice to keep things running smoothly.
These AA meeting customs have developed during the 80-plus years that the AA program has been in existence. Like most social etiquette traditions, they help the meetings to run smoothly and stay focused on the goal of the meeting. The primary purpose of Alcoholics Anonymous is for AA members to stay sober and help others to achieve sobriety.
First and foremost it is a sign of humility for the newcomer to prioritize listening over sharing. New members generally know very little about living a healthy, sober life and the only way to learn from the experience of others is to listen to them. A common faux pas committed by newcomers is to share whatever is going on in their lives instead of speaking on topic. Also, the experience of newcomers generally consists of drug use or alcohol use and not with sobriety. As a result, their shares are often “war stories,” or nostalgic recollections of past use. No matter what your addiction is, it is considered a sign of respect to introduce yourself as an alcoholic in an AA meeting and an addict in a NA or CA meeting. For example, even if your drug of choice is heroin, you should introduce yourself as an alcoholic at an AA meeting.
Cross-talk is when someone shares directly to someone else. This might sound harmless, but in a room full of alcoholics and their egos? Well, then cross-talk is serious business. Never interrupt somebody who is speaking. We should respect each other and our unique struggles! We can’t control what others say and do, but we don’t have to be a jackass to them. Disrespecting people should be avoided at all costs, especially in meetings, especially the newcomer. If someone says something that isn’t right, mistakenly or not, the proper reaction is to ignore them. Move on, with open ears, to what others have to say. Also, it is bad form to talk about sensitive topics such as religion or politics. Remember, acceptance is the answer to ALL our problems.
This one might be kind of obvious, but twelve-step meetings are anonymous! They’re for alcoholics and addicts to come together and share honestly. We need to be comfortable enough to talk about what happened, what life was like, and what life’s like now. That feeling of comfort doesn’t happen if people talk about what’s said outside of the room.
Again, don’t be that girl or guy! Don’t talk outside the rooms about people you’ve seen or things you’ve heard. Everyone should be respected and left anonymous.
Respectful 12—Step Meeting Behavior
Cell phones should be silenced or turned off at the beginning of the meeting. If you receive an important phone call you should take it outside, but this should be avoided if possible.
It is also considered rude to get up once the meeting begins. Talking to neighbors during the meeting is disrespectful to whoever is sharing. Public speaking can provoke a lot of anxiety in some people. Not only are side conversations distracting, but they convey the message that attendees are not listening to what the speaker has to say.
If you have to leave the meeting early or get up for some other reason, wait until the speaker finishes to do so.